Diva…More to Love…Ruby…Biggest Loser…
It seems like the entire world is focused on weight issues… bigger girls, whether shown in a positive or negative light seem to sell advertising space!
Everyone has a different set of physical attractions that guide their libidos. For me, a curvy woman fuels my interest far more than a woman that looks like a pre-pubescent 12 year old boy. So my lascivious self was very interested to catch the newest FOX dating show in the bachelorette and bachelor franchise… “More to Love”.
The show started as expected, big people all looking for the right one… or the right one, right now. Either way, the premise is that with all of these larger ladies in the same room and in the same situation, there would be an absence of judgment calls and haters.
The problem started with the height and weight announcements blazing across the screen of every contestant in what seemed to be 15 second intervals. The first few times were not an issue for me, as they called to remind me that this show was supposed to be different. However, after reminding us 10 times…. I yelled at the screen, “Ok, we get it! They are fat… move on!”
And that’s the issue with the remainder of the show…they neglected to move on or ever make it about the dating, the silliness of the dating or the drama. It was solely about how fat people are just as fearful and neurotic as everyone else. By the way, is fat a politically correct term? If not, please insert your favorite ‘above average’ weight label here. Personally, I like to refer to myself as calorically enhanced.
Dear producers, would it not have been more powerful to cast strong, confident women on the show that just so happen to be a size 16? Watching Ms. 3000 calorie a day girl cry her eyes out because she believes that no one will ever love her due to her size just reconfirms our stereotyped vision of bigger people. The look of pleading eyes and desperation when they don’t get picked to move on to the next round of disaster just showcases that these girls didn’t think once that it may be that they had the personality of a dishrag. They blamed everything on the fact that they had far too many cupcakes in their body.
How will people finally learn to stop perceiving big girls as wrong… unless the girls themselves start believing that they are ok?
Ladies…be proud of your size…. wear it, own it. If you are miserable, then lose the weight. However, if you want the world to look at you with acceptance, show it to us first.
Will I watch the show again? Perhaps to see if it gets better and less stereotypical, but mostly for the pleasure I get from finally seeing sexy, curvy women on TV.
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Matthew Gladstone is by trade an executive chef both in the private sector and the restaurant industry. When he is not slaving over a hot stove he enjoys his home life in West Hollywood with his hot girlfriend Christine and his perfect, adorable dog Domino.
Besides his passion for the creation of fabulous upscale comfort foods, Matthew loves writing reviews and blogs, watching movies, drinking champagne and playing the violin.
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