13Jan

Which came first?

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I’ve been thinking about something that reminds me of the age old question; which came first, the chicken or the egg?

Here’s the modern day question: Do you feel sexy because you wear lingerie? Or do you wear lingerie because you feel sexy? I still haven’t figured it out, but researching it sure is fun!

Unfortunately, in our society women are taught to focus on their flaws instead of their natural beauty. The more I embrace and celebrate my curves, the more confident I feel. All I know is, each time I play dress-up with a flirty petticoat or I lace myself up in that ever-so-hot Valentina underbust corset, I feel a little bit sexier! What’s your favorite dress-up outfit or sexy ensemble that makes you feel amazing?

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02Aug

Guest Post: More To Love – A Male Perspective

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We are delighted to welcome our guest blogger, Matthew, to share his thoughts about the new reality series, “More to Love”.


Diva…More to Love…Ruby…Biggest Loser…

It seems like the entire world is focused on weight issues… bigger girls, whether shown in a positive or negative light seem to sell advertising space!

Everyone has a different set of physical attractions that guide their libidos.  For me, a curvy woman fuels my interest far more than a woman that looks like a pre-pubescent 12 year old boy. So my lascivious self was very interested to catch the newest FOX dating show in the bachelorette and bachelor franchise… “More to Love”.

The show started as expected, big people all looking for the right one… or the right one, right now.  Either way, the premise is that with all of these larger ladies in the same room and in the same situation, there would be an absence of judgment calls and haters.

The problem started with the height and weight announcements blazing across the screen of every contestant in what seemed to be 15 second intervals. The first few times were not an issue for me, as they called to remind me that this show was supposed to be different. However, after reminding us 10 times…. I yelled at the screen, “Ok, we get it! They are fat… move on!”

And that’s the issue with the remainder of the show…they neglected to move on or ever make it about the dating, the silliness of the dating or the drama. It was solely about how fat people are just as fearful and neurotic as everyone else.  By the way, is fat a politically correct term? If not, please insert your favorite ‘above average’ weight label here. Personally, I like to refer to myself as calorically enhanced.

Dear producers, would it not have been more powerful to cast strong, confident women on the show that just so happen to be a size 16?  Watching Ms. 3000 calorie a day girl cry her eyes out because she believes that no one will ever love her due to her size just reconfirms our stereotyped vision of bigger people. The look of pleading eyes and desperation when they don’t get picked to move on to the next round of disaster just showcases that these girls didn’t think once that it may be that they had the personality of  a dishrag. They blamed everything on the fact that they had far too many cupcakes in their body.

How will people finally learn to stop perceiving big girls as wrong… unless the girls themselves start believing that they are ok?

Ladies…be proud of your size…. wear it, own it.   If you are miserable, then lose the weight.  However, if you want the world to look at you with acceptance, show it to us first.

Will I watch the show again?   Perhaps to see if it gets better and less stereotypical, but mostly for the pleasure I get from finally seeing sexy, curvy women on TV.

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Matthew Gladstone is by trade an executive chef both in the private sector and the restaurant industry.  When he is not slaving over a hot stove he enjoys his home life in West Hollywood with his hot girlfriend Christine and his perfect, adorable dog Domino.

Besides his passion for the creation of fabulous upscale comfort foods, Matthew loves writing reviews and blogs, watching movies, drinking champagne and playing the violin.

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01Jul

Adele: The Singer Has Moved Into The Fashion Spotlight

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There are days when I feel comfortable in my own skin and other days…not so much.   I thought by this time in my life I would have found a happy medium, but as wise person keeps telling me, “it’s a journey, enjoy it”.

Sometimes I get signals that I am doing the right thing – accepting my body just as it is.  One of those signals was an article in the Los Angeles Times I came across on Sunday morning entitled “She Is Who She Is”.  The “she” is singer/song writer, Adele.   With an angelic, seductive face, curvy figure and a soulful voice far beyond her young age of 21, Adele is making history in more ways than one.

I am a huge fan of Adele’s music, but I’m an even bigger fan of her confidence.   It’s amazing to me that some one almost half my age has the ability to be true to herself, and stand strong in an industry that prefers thin, cookie cutter pop stars who do exactly what they are told.  Not Adele, she is her own girl.  As she says,

I’ve gotten this far without looking like Britney Spears. I think I can go a bit further.

But what I like most about the article is that Adele is confident about her size and feels there is room for everyone and every size.  Adele says,

The most important thing is the way that someone carries themselves.  If they feel comfortable, they carry themselves differently.

That is so true, there is nothing sexier or more fashionable than a confident woman.  A woman can be successful no matter what her size.  And there are many others Etta James, Jennifer Hudson, Beth Ditto and Jill Scott,  all successful and all true to themselves.

Adele, just like the others, followed her dreams and carved out her own path.   Girls, we cannot let anything hold us back!  Let’s embrace who we are and never apologize for it.  Let’s celebrate all woman, all shapes, all sizes.

Lets keep the confidence going like Adele.   Check out the entire article here.

-Photo Courtesy of LA Times-

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28May

Misty’s Dating Adventures Part 2

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I had another date this week and his name was Marcus… who I also met on the curvy girl site.  He is a partner at his law firm (sounds exciting, but actually means he never has time to spend with you).  He is a single father, marriage and family minded, a few years older than me, and incredibly intelligent.   Seemed too good to be true, right?  He took me out for drinks and a little dancing in a really cool place downtown, but unfortunately there weren’t sufficient sparks to make a fire.   Also considering he lives in San Diego, is a snorer, and emotionally high maintenance, it was mutually decided to not pursue a second date.  

One thing about Marcus that troubled me was that in his profile he listed his body type as average – but in reality he was at least 300lbs.   I wish people wouldn’t misrepresent themselves that way.  I’ve dated stocky/chubby guys in the past, but I think I’m developing a preference for lean and fit guys.   I realize this sounds hypocritical, but if men can have a preference for curvy girls, then I think it’s fair for me to have a preference for fit guys…. We all have our preferences, right?

 What do you think?  Is it “sizist” to have a preference in physique?

 

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17Apr

Re-define the Norm

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Okay. I was having a girls’ night the other night and before the movie we started talking about women’s studies and somehow got onto the topic of women’s image. We went all over the place; talking about suffrage, women’s rights, the lack of chivalry and politeness in general (sorry guys, but chivalry just isn’t as common as it used to be!) and of course, women’s self esteem and self-image in the world today.

There once was a time any man would hurry to open a door or pull out a chair. You would pass by and hats would tip to you left and right. In the society we live in now, that has become a rarity. These days it’s more common than not, to have an elevator door close on you as you rush to make it in, and hats are left on as if stuck with superglue.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying all men behave like this. It’s just the number of those who have lost their manners has increased dramatically over the last few generations. There are still some men (and if you find one, keep him!) that will open the door for you, and not only you. To be a true gentleman they will hold it for you and the group walking in behind you. They will hurry to open your car door, and let you pass ahead of them as you walk through a tight squeeze on the sidewalk.

Some would argue that this decline in society contributes to the lack of self esteem and self respect that we see in the women of today. I even heard a close friend of mine say “Men make me feel the worst about myself. Sometimes I feel as if I don’t even deserve to have a door held open for me anymore.” We know it isn’t anything personal men, but women are complicated and observant beings and the little things mean a lot. I’m sure it also stems from the difference in how boys and girls are raised. Girls are brought up awaiting their fairytale prince and being told to stay clear of the wrong kind of guy. However boys these days are being taught less and less about manners and chivalry, replacing Cotillion with PS3′s and YouTube. Continue Reading

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