Oh my god, here I am, a straight male writing about feelings and emotions.
Wait… here I am, a straight male writing about feelings and emotions, while living in West Hollywood, California and sitting next to my super cute little Chihuahua.
Damn…. All macho has left the building.
While it’s true, I bantered last week about the “More to Love” crazy’s, I feel compelled to do a follow up. Yes, I was sucked in again to the dating spectacle just to see if they ceased and desisted smacking the girls weight, menstrual cycle and other bits of “to much information” across the screen.
I am pleased to announce that the producers are human and chose not to repeat that offense, but, when can I expect these “love contestants” to learn how to be functioning beings?
Darlings, here is a bit of advise that you didn’t ask for.
These men in your life did not ignore you, nor did they “pick you last” or not fall in love with you solely because of your weight! Do I need to repeat this? Ok… I will.
NO ONE MAKES A LONG TERM DATING DECISION BASED ON A SINGULAR FACTOR!
The sniffling baby cry-a-lots’ on the show seem to blame their lack of dating, sex, world peace or worsening national economy solely on the fact that they love food.
Of course, we are all immediately attracted to a certain body type, smell, look or attitude, but we don’t base every decision on those split second attractions. If your physicality is not something that rivals Mrs. ‘Almost’ Pitt or the models on HipsAndCurves.com, then own it and step up to the other 8 million options that we possess or can discover!
Learn a new skill, smile more, laugh more, make others laugh more, be more at peace, do something…ANYTHING…better than anyone else! It’s as simple as that!
That’s what attracts us, sustains friendships and long term relationships.
Girls, are you honestly going to feel terrible because not every random sperm donor thinks you are perfection at every second of every day? Why not focus on what you want? Focus on what YOU are attracted to and emanate that from your gorgeous, curvy body!!
Wear sexy lingerie, or wear flannel jammies or wear nothing at all! Everyone has different desires and not every day is the same. The only one that you need to please and stay true to… is YOU.
I have experienced women out there that will find excuses for everything in life because of one small (or large) segment of their being! Can you imagine a big girl, criticizing another big girl, because she’s NOT a true BBW?
Nothing is sexier to this odd ball chef than a confident woman who smiles and doesn’t try very hard to impress. I’ll talk to the seemingly average looking girl at the bar that just sits and smiles and enjoys her bar snacks and booze with far more vigor than a woman who is trying to channel the evil Paris Hiltons’ of the world and overworking everything she has just to desperately attract the attention of…anyone that will listen.
We each have unlimited access to find what makes us special. When the stars are aligned, or the fates are tested, or the booze is flowing freely, we will discover another person that just so happens to like one, two or fifty of those special parts of our essence and a friendship is born!
Be consistent, be yourself, be proud of what you offer, or if you are not, then change it in to something that you are proud of. Simple no?
Ok lovely women of all shapes, ask yourself the next time you feel slighted because another person didn’t like your rolls as much as Entenmanns…would I really want to talk to a “tool” that loves everything about me except my dress size?
Until we meet again, smile more, drink better champagne and love that everyday, we get another chance to make things better in our life.
