When I am shopping in a Big Girl Store, and I am trying on clothes, I always come out of the fitting room to look in a three-way mirror.  When I come out, if the clerk says something like, “Oh that makes you look slimmer”, or “Wow that looks so slenderizing on you”, I am forced to respond with a comment that I am CERTAIN they don’t hear everyday.  I simply say, “Oh then I don’t want it, you can take it back”.

WHAT???? I don’t want to look thinner?   I don’t want to appear as though I am smaller than I actually am????   Are you kidding me?

OK, catch your breath.  Let me explain something.  It is something about compliments.

But first let me spout a little about fat girl stores.  I want to be able to go into a safe place, that sells MY size, and not have to be concerned about clothing that makes me look thinner.  I want to be free to just look great.  Good fit, great style, amazing color, beautiful fabrics….those things.  If a person is going to work in a plus size industry, I want them to be able to figure out that not ALL women are disgusted by their size.  Not ALL women hate their bodies.  Many of us love our bodies and want to enhance our curves – not hide them!!!  There, that being said, I can move on.

Back to compliments.  I am going to ask for your participation here.  Just for 30 days.  Thirty measly days out of thousands that you will live and have lived.  It could be an eye-opener, or at the very least, a lot of FUN. Continue Reading