25Feb

MY GOD, you look so SKINNY!

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When I am shopping in a Big Girl Store, and I am trying on clothes, I always come out of the fitting room to look in a three-way mirror.  When I come out, if the clerk says something like, “Oh that makes you look slimmer”, or “Wow that looks so slenderizing on you”, I am forced to respond with a comment that I am CERTAIN they don’t hear everyday.  I simply say, “Oh then I don’t want it, you can take it back”.

WHAT???? I don’t want to look thinner?   I don’t want to appear as though I am smaller than I actually am????   Are you kidding me?

OK, catch your breath.  Let me explain something.  It is something about compliments.

But first let me spout a little about fat girl stores.  I want to be able to go into a safe place, that sells MY size, and not have to be concerned about clothing that makes me look thinner.  I want to be free to just look great.  Good fit, great style, amazing color, beautiful fabrics….those things.  If a person is going to work in a plus size industry, I want them to be able to figure out that not ALL women are disgusted by their size.  Not ALL women hate their bodies.  Many of us love our bodies and want to enhance our curves – not hide them!!!  There, that being said, I can move on.

Back to compliments.  I am going to ask for your participation here.  Just for 30 days.  Thirty measly days out of thousands that you will live and have lived.  It could be an eye-opener, or at the very least, a lot of FUN. Continue Reading

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19Feb

Happy New Year!

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Happy New Year everyone!  Looks like it’s going to be a bumpy ride.  Yep, it’s true. We are going through a recession. Chances are, most of us are feeling the effects both professionally and personally.  I don’t know anyone who isn’t.  It’s easy to get stuck in fear and depression if we’re not careful.  I’m like a sponge if I listen to news more than five to ten minutes I can buy into the fear.  But does being in a recession mean we can’t be happy and successful?  Looking at the glass as half full, I’m actually kind of excited…. “Necessity is the mother of invention,” right?  Some of our best ideas and most creative outbursts have come when our backs are against the wall.  (We can’t give away any trade secrets but we have some exciting changes happening this year!) 

My New Years resolution?  I’m going on a “mental diet.”  I’m not going to deny that our country is going through some major upheavals, but I am going to make a conscious effort to watch my thoughts. Author, James Ray, talks about a recession being like winter.  It may be dark and cold but it’s seasonal and it will pass.  Worrying obsessively, being depressed and miserable won’t make spring come any earlier.  How we choose to see the situation and deal with it can affect our well being and inner peace.  We can use this as a time to grow, to look at our choices, to reconnect with our friends and family.  And eventually spring will come again. The question is, how can we get through this wintry time and keep our sense of peace and optimism and gratitude?  Can we see the beauty in a cold, dark winter night?  
 
We’ve tightened our belts and are being extra careful with our expenses, but I’m happy to say people are still buying lingerie!   The super sexy stuff like corsets  and costumes are really popular right now.  People need a little fun, fantasy and escapism.  Some of the things people are buying aren’t cheap - but we’ve found our customers are looking for ‘value’ rather than ‘cheap’.  The Steel Boned Dutchess Corset came in and went out faster than anything we’d ever seen.   We’re also selling a lot of panties, cotton tanks and Damn Sexy T’s.  We might as well make ourselves comfortable and sexy!    Our country is in for some big changes and a bright future.  We’ve gotta hold on to our hats (or panties) and enjoy the ride!
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18Feb

Fat….The F Word

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Brown is the new black.

50 is the new 30.

Fat is the new…ummmmm – FAT!!

What? How dare I use the dreaded F word.  I mean come on, I AM a female for cryin out sideways!! I need to be ashamed, guilted, depressed or at the very least quiet about it.

Well I am daring to come out of the closet, so to speak, about using the word FAT to describe my wonderful body!!  I have owned this big body for MANY years now and have loved all that it has provided me.  Men, clothes, travel, singing, acting, men, commercials, comedy, beauty, men (God have I mentioned MEN?) and so many other amazing experiences.

When you pick up a puppy, you turn it over and love on it exclaiming, “Oh I love this fat little belly!!” I myself usually kiss a puppy belly and raspberry it.   I love love love the smell of puppy belly skin.

A newborn baby?  Of the human kind, that is.  We comment on the adorable chubby cheeks and the amazing fat at the top of the baby legs.  We comment how healthy those chunky babies look, and my look at the beautiful color…no matter what color!

Ok, so when did FAT become bad? I have that fat at the top of my legs, belly charm and adorable cheeks.  I must be amazingly cute…well my FAT is. To me.  To my husband.  To many others too. Continue Reading

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16Feb

Beth Ditto – High Fashion Covergirl?

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I just came across an article for a new Condé Nast luxury fashion and style publication called LOVE that promises to be “edgy and experimental”. I know we’re all used to seeing size zero fashion models and movie stars gracing the covers of high end fashion mags but to my surprise, the very first issue of Love features a not so typical cover model – Beth Ditto! And by the way, she is nude!  Apparently it’s not the first time she has posed nude for a magazine cover.  Rebecca just sent me this link with a shot from her NME  cover shoot.

What do you guys think of the cover? Is it sexy? Tacky? Empowering? Share your thoughts!

25Jan

Planting Seeds for Valentines Day

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We are less than one month away from Valentines Day which means I can begin to plant seeds.  My mom taught me how to plant seeds when I was a teenager.  Like when I wanted to go out on a date with this cute boy who had his own car.  My dad hated that guy, his cocky attitude and little red mustang, but I adored him!  I knew my dad would say no so I went to my mom to ask…or in some cases, beg.  We both knew my dad would flip a lid so my mom would start planting seeds.  Little seeds in casual conversation “Sweetie, Lola is doing so well in school, I’m so proud of her” or “I can’t believe Lola is already 16!  She’s practically all grown up!”.  During the seed planting phase she would never, ever nag him.  Then she would take my Dad out to his favorite restaurant, or bring home a surprise for him and before you knew it, he was totally agreeable!  It was like magic!  I didn’t really appreciate my mom’s gift until I had to start using it myself.

My honey is an absolute doll but he has no clue when it comes to buying gifts.  He knows I love lingerie so I always know to expect it on Valentines Day, but after two years of red lace teddies I knew it was time to start planting.  I could never tell him I didn’t like what he picked – it would just crush him.  So I would parade around in the ridiculous outfits and pretend to love them.  I mean, I know it’s Valentines Day and everything but how much scratchy red lace can one person take?

I usually start planting seeds 2 or 3 weeks before Valentines Day knowing full well that he won’t actually go out to buy anything until the night before.  His procrastination explains his odd choices in intimates – he’s probably just picking up whatever’s left!  So I start by printing out my favorite pieces from the website and leaving them scattered around the house.  I write little notes on them so my master plan isn’t totally obvious.  Things like “looked great on fit model!” or “Coral color was amazing!”.  I always make sure to leave the style number so he can search for it on the website. To him they are just job related notes but something must happen subconsciously, because he always ends up buying them.  And not just one or two.  If I print out five styles he always buys all five!  He thinks he’s soooo sneaky reading my notes, little does he know :)

The most important piece of this plan is that I make a huge deal about how much I love the lingerie (and I do, ’cause I picked them!).  I make sure to wear them that night and continue to wear them throughout the year.  This makes him feel like a rock star – I’ve even heard him helping his friends pick out lingerie for their ladies!  He now fancies himself a lingerie connoisseur and I get to expand my lingerie collection.  Even though I do feel a little guilty sometimes, we both get to enjoy the purchases, so everyone wins ;)

What are your Valentines Day tricks?

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