01Feb

My Resolution Slip Up

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My New Year’s resolution and commitment to the CC readers was to write once a week about how to make everyday a special occasion. As you all noticed, I did not write last week – oops! See that is the way things go, we make New Year’s resolutions then “life” happens and you slip up!

Well as the saying goes, you gotta’ get back in the saddle! Here’s the thing. I didn’t have time to write last week because I moved into a new apartment! I didn’t have Internet access and frankly, moving is a lot of work and takes a lot of time! So there you have it. That is my excuse. I think it’s a pretty good one as far as excuses go ;)

I am so excited about this move. This is my first apartment that I am living in by myself. I was married for 16 years and prior to that, I always had room mates. I’ve never lived alone and you know what? So far I like it! I know there will be times where I will feel lonely or be fearful, but most of the time I will enjoy it. So far so good!

One of the things I like most about living alone is not having to explain anything to anyone. Like why I am having cereal for dinner, watching a movie I have seen 20 times, eating dinner in bed, playing the music I want to hear, basically not having to compromise.

A good thing I discovered about moving is it makes all of my old stuff seem brand new. Everything has a new life – including me. I get a “do over”! When I was apartment hunting the one thing I did not compromise on was location and I am happy I didn’t. I wanted to live on a nice tree lined street that was in walking distance to stores and restaurants and that was safe to walk my dog late at night. So with that, I am off to walk my dog and enjoy my time alone for now ;)

19Jan

A bra is not an extravagance. It is a necessity.

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Ok ladies!  It’s been a week since my “New, New Years Resolution”.  Have you thought about what special something you are going to do for yourself this week?  If not, here is an idea for you!

This week I did something that was simple and easy.  I have been fighting it for a long time, but this week, I bit the bullet.  I did it and I feel so much better!

I bought a new bra.

Simple right?  But oh, what a change!!   The girls are lifted and separated.  I didn’t think it was going to make this much of a difference. I really don’t know why I waited so long.  It made no sense.  A bra is something I wear every day and I had not purchased a new bra since…umm…. I am really embarrassed; it has been over a year!  What is wrong with me?  Why do I do this to myself?  No one was suffering but me!

Here are the two bra’s I bought:

First of all, both bra’s are on sale right now, score!  Secondly, my blouses look better, my posture is better, and it was more than worth it.  You know what’s the best part? I don’t dread putting on my bra everyday like I used to.  Before I was constantly tugging, pulling and adjusting my bra.   And I could not wait to take it off when I got home!

Paying more for a bra is totally worth it.  Ladies – don’t wait like I did.  Do it today, buy a couple of quality bras that fit and build from there.

My new commitment?   Buy one every 2 months.  That is 6 new bras by the end of the year.

Life is too short to wear an old, ill fitting, ugly bra.  A bra is not an extravagance.   It is a necessity.

Go out to a department store or get online and buy a new bra today!

Remember – don’t wait for a special occasion to buy a new bra; TODAY is a special occasion!

P.S. If anyone needs help figuring out what bra size they are, feel free to call one of our lingerie consultants at 800.220.8878.  They helped me find the right size!

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11Jan

New Year – New Resolution!

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The New Year has started and it’s time for New Years resolutions.   Who can guess the number one New Years resolution?   Losing weight.  Why is it always about losing weight?  Losing weight used to be my resolution – but no more!  Let me share with you how I came to this conclusion.

Last week while at the bookstore I happened by the self-help section.  UGH!  is all I could say to myself.  I am sure that the authors of these “self-help” books have only the best intentions, but enough already!  I flipped through the pages of a few books… A Million Ways to be Happy, Things to do Before You Die.  There was even a book that suggested I doodle my way to happiness.  The book literally had blank pages for you to doodle on.  I felt like the books were judging me, not helping me.  Some of these books suggested that I  “See the horses cross the finish line at the Kentucky Derby,” or “Take a road trip across the country,” or  “Go on a hot air balloon ride,” and on and on and on.  And all I kept thinking was, “Boy, these would be great if I was independently wealthy and had unlimited vacation from work.”  Not very realistic.

Which brings me back to a new take on the New Years resolution.  This new way of thinking is more about making small changes here and there… things that are realistic!  To enjoy your life a little more, not have any regrets at the end of the year, and not to focus on your weight!

Most of us wait for special occasions to do special things, like wearing the antique ring your grandmother gave you, buying a great bottle of champagne or dining at your favorite restaurant.  What are we waiting for?  As the saying goes, “Life is short!”  Why wait for special occasions to do special things?  Isn’t every day special?

The only person not enjoying life and doing things you truly want to do is YOU.   The New Year is a fresh start and there are small things you can do each week, things that are manageable and won’t cost a lot of money.

What I am proposing is doing one thing, once a week.  One special thing.   If you want to try along with me, my first idea is to always use your nice china dishes (if you have china.)  Why save it for a special occasion? Did you know china is more durable and longer lasting the everyday dishes?  And it is dishwasher safe!  I’m going to use my china everyday and I encourage you to do the same!

Now I need ideas for next week, and the following week and the rest of the year!  Please share some ideas with me and all of the other readers and let’s make this year SPECIAL!

14Sep

Weightless

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Ok everyone…lets drop that weight!! That’s right, let’s get rid of it once and for all.

If you know me or what I stand for…you may think that I have had a hit on my head, or a change of heart, or a lapse in all that I write and speak about.

Not true.

I actually mean it.  Lets all lose some weight!  Oh, it is probably not the “weight” that you may think.  I am talking about all of the self-doubt, the degrading thoughts within your head, and all of the other WEIGHT that you pile on yourself when talking about your body and its girth/weight/poundage/pooch/fat…or any other word that you could use to diminish all of the real beauty that you actually do possess.   I have been working with, coaching, counseling and teaching people (not only women either) about body issues and self-loathing a lot lately.    The topic is always so fascinating to me and continues to be.   What I am finding is that many of us pile on the “weight” of carrying around a bad attitude and it is HEAVY.

Self-speak is constantly occurring.   Our job is to re-program, if you will, our negative thoughts about what we look like.   Why not make the choice to drop the bad thinking and replace with thoughts of all that we actually are that is great and all of the wonderful qualities that we do possess.

So I am suggesting that you drop a few unnecessary pounds of criticism. And not just about yourself, of others as well.   Stop looking for the seeming flaws in yourself and point out to yourself all of the beauty of who you are.  And begin to notice the truth about the beauty in others too.

Confidence is the best accessory a person can put on, a wise and loving man once told me.   I loved that.   I still do.   I still remember it like it was yesterday and it was many years ago.     Look lovingly at your reflection rather than with a critical, judgmental eye.   You are PERFECT just the way you are.   Remember that.   So dress it up, sexify it, strut it, move and dance it, adore it…it being you!

With love, from a “weightless” woman.

xoxo Wendy

10Aug

Guest Post: Matthew Follows Up

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Oh my god,  here I am, a straight male writing about feelings and emotions.

Wait… here I am, a straight male writing about feelings and emotions, while living in West Hollywood, California and sitting  next to my super cute little Chihuahua.

Damn…. All macho has left the building.

While it’s true, I bantered last week about the “More to Love” crazy’s, I feel compelled to do a follow up.  Yes, I was sucked in again to the dating spectacle just to see if they ceased and desisted smacking the girls weight, menstrual cycle and other bits of “to much information” across the screen.

I am pleased to announce that the producers are human and chose not to repeat that offense, but, when can I expect these “love contestants” to learn how to be functioning beings?

Darlings, here is a bit of advise that you didn’t ask for.

These men in your life did not ignore you, nor did they “pick you last” or not fall in love with you solely because of your weight!  Do I need to repeat this? Ok… I will.

NO ONE MAKES A LONG TERM DATING DECISION BASED ON A SINGULAR FACTOR!

The sniffling baby cry-a-lots’ on the show seem to blame their lack of dating, sex, world peace or worsening national economy solely on the fact that they love food.

Of course, we are all immediately attracted to a certain body type, smell, look or attitude, but we don’t base every decision on those split second attractions.   If your physicality is not something that rivals Mrs. ‘Almost’ Pitt or the models on HipsAndCurves.com, then own it and step up to the other 8 million options that we possess or can discover!

Learn a new skill, smile more, laugh more, make others laugh more, be more at peace, do something…ANYTHING…better than anyone else!  It’s as simple as that!

That’s what attracts us, sustains friendships and long term relationships.

Girls, are you honestly going to feel terrible because not every random sperm donor thinks you are perfection at every second of every day?  Why not focus on what you want? Focus on what YOU are attracted to and emanate that from your gorgeous, curvy body!!

Wear sexy lingerie, or wear flannel jammies or wear nothing at all! Everyone has different desires and not every day is the same. The only one that you need to please and stay true to… is YOU.

I have experienced women out there that will find excuses for everything in life because of one small (or large) segment of their being!  Can you imagine a big girl, criticizing another big girl, because she’s NOT a true BBW?

Nothing is sexier to this odd ball chef than a confident woman who smiles and doesn’t try very hard to impress.  I’ll talk to the seemingly average looking girl at the bar that just sits and smiles and enjoys her bar snacks and booze with far more vigor than a woman who is trying to channel the evil Paris Hiltons’ of the world and overworking everything she has just to desperately attract the attention of…anyone that will listen.

We each have unlimited access to find what makes us special.  When the stars are aligned, or the fates are tested, or the booze is flowing freely, we will discover another person that just so happens to like one, two or fifty of those special parts of our essence and a friendship is born!

Be consistent, be yourself, be proud of what you offer, or if you are not, then change it in to something that you are proud of.   Simple no?

Ok lovely women of all shapes, ask yourself the next time you feel slighted because another person didn’t like your rolls as much as Entenmanns…would I really want to talk to a “tool” that loves everything about me except my dress size?

Until we meet again, smile more, drink better champagne and love that everyday, we get another chance to make things better in our life.

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