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Random Question time! :)
Well, maybe not so random considering Halloween is right around the corner. With Halloween fast approaching, we seem to have costumes on the brain here at H&C.
So with costumes in mind, today’s question is:
Which are you? The Hunter or the Hunted? Would you be a pouncing cat with claws, or a sweet, innocent rabbit? ;)
Sexy Vinyl Cat Set vs. Bewitching Bunny Costume Kit
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I was sitting here this morning trying to come up with something to write about. On Wednesdays we like write about something sexy (it is “hump day” after all!). What was the first thing that came to mind? A customer’s question from a call I had a week or so ago. She was new to the whole “lingerie thing” and wasn’t sure what to get. So, I asked her what colors she likes and what colors she usually wears in blouses/tops, since that is a great starting point for anyone unsure or slightly uncomfortable about buying sexy goodies. She said that her wardrobe is mostly black, but that her eyes really pop when she wears blues or teals, and that she feels extra saucy when she wears red blouses and dresses. So, we picked out a gorgeous deep teal chemise and robe, a couple very sexy red babydolls and a gorgeous red corset. I even received an email from her after she got them, saying that she loved the way the teal complimented her eyes, and that she felt extremely confident in the red babydoll and corset. She said that even her boyfriend commented on how confident and sexy she looked! And that is really what it boils down to: Confidence is key. Sometimes something as simple as “your color” can make you feel super confident and super sexy.
So, if you are ready to strut your stuff in something new, but aren’t quite sure what to get, just ask yourself: What is your favorite color when you want to feel sexy? What color helps you feel confident? 
It’s happened to all of us one way or another, even if we don’t want to admit it… Well, I will. Yes, I’ve just been STOOD UP. It might be the karma of the universe getting back at me for the few times I’ve stood guys up in the past. However, I can pretty much guarantee that I’ve never stood anyone up cold, that is, without a call, email, or text explaining I couldn’t make it.
This past Saturday, I drove to the Valley for a date with an Englishmen I met over an online dating site. We had a great email exchange, picked a day, time, and place, and that was it. I was looking forward to meeting a new person and hearing his story over some nice Italian food and a glass of wine. Unfortunately for me, the dude didn’t show up.
So, my friends, this is my advice to look cool in case you get stood up.
1. If you arrive at the restaurant first, tell the waiter you are just a party of one – but you may have a friend joining you.
2. Bring a book or a newspaper to keep yourself busy in case you want to stay for lunch on your own. (I did and ended up flirting with the adorable restaurant owner who asked for my number!)
3. Let go of the anger… nobody looks pretty when they’re mad…. And you want to look pretty in case there are other cute single guys there!
As my beloved Granny would say,
“Girl, you need to get up, brush the dust off your butt, and get back in the saddle.”
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I just came home from my absolute favorite indulgence that I must share with you. It’s called a Korean Spa. I live down the street from one and treat myself once a week. The Korean spa is an absolute delight for the senses. It is a wonderful bonding experience – all the ladies are so friendly – and it is nice to be around bodies of all shapes, sizes, and ages. It always comforts me that in all the time I’ve been going to the spa, I have never seen a ‘perfect’ body. They’re all perfect in their imperfection.
Back to the spa.. first a shower and you must put your hair up. You then transition between soaking in Jacuzzi’s, hot tea baths, ice baths, wet sauna, dry sauna, oxygen sauna and culminated with a nap on a jade tile floor wrapped up like a burrito. That is just the tip of the iceberg though. What I just described is my typical weekly visit to the spa which takes about 2-3 hours and puts me back a measly $15 dollars.
What I really want to share with you is the monthly spa treatment that I indulge in. It’s called the Milk and Honey Body Smoothie. First, I go for a quick soak, from there my therapist retrieves me and lays me down on her table. She drenches me with warm milk containing citrus oil and then the fun begins. I get scrubbed from head to toe with silk mitts that exfoliate every inch of my body and leave me slippery smooth. What follows next is a pineapple body shampoo, another exfoliation, and then a scalp massage with essential oil before a shampoo and conditioning treatment. It’s usually by this point the stress that has built up over the past month has been released and I’ve become one with the experience. Continue Reading
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I had another date this week and his name was Marcus… who I also met on the curvy girl site. He is a partner at his law firm (sounds exciting, but actually means he never has time to spend with you). He is a single father, marriage and family minded, a few years older than me, and incredibly intelligent. Seemed too good to be true, right? He took me out for drinks and a little dancing in a really cool place downtown, but unfortunately there weren’t sufficient sparks to make a fire. Also considering he lives in San Diego, is a snorer, and emotionally high maintenance, it was mutually decided to not pursue a second date.
One thing about Marcus that troubled me was that in his profile he listed his body type as average – but in reality he was at least 300lbs. I wish people wouldn’t misrepresent themselves that way. I’ve dated stocky/chubby guys in the past, but I think I’m developing a preference for lean and fit guys. I realize this sounds hypocritical, but if men can have a preference for curvy girls, then I think it’s fair for me to have a preference for fit guys…. We all have our preferences, right?
What do you think? Is it “sizist” to have a preference in physique?
