19Mar

Apparently, Size DOES Matter!

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I have a little story to tell.  This is a true story.  Happened just last week.  I am still wondering about it.  I am still baffled by it.  I want some feedback here….and decided that this might be the place to ask for it. 

A wonderful friend of mine (I will call her Maria to protect her privacy) and I had gotten together last week while I was in Michigan.  We were going to get some dinner, do some shopping and stop in for a Chinese Massage.  Wow.  A perfect evening for me!

While shopping in one of our favorite stores, she came upon a light-weight jacket.  Nothing special.  Just a nylon jacket, blue, snug fitting and just…well, there.  She said that she could use it for golfing and if it rained there was the obligatory hood.  She kept looking.  She was on the small girl side and I was in the plus sizes across the aisle. 

She then said, “Look at this!”  I turned to see her in this amazingly ADORABLE jean jacket.  Large grommets on the front, hook and eye closures and grommets with large ribbons on the sleeves.  It was just darling.  I couldn’t quit commenting on how cute it was and how it was so dang cute on her!

Maria held her breath as she wondered about the price, thinking that it would cost about $50.  She was thrilled when she looked at the tag and it was only $24.99!!   I asked her if she liked the size…as it was a little bigger and more flowing that most of her other clothes, but not too big by any means.  She said yes, that she really liked the fit and the look.  SHE LOVED THIS JACKET!!

I looked over at her and now she was looking in the neckline.  I asked her what she was looking for and she replied, “I want to see if this is a Medium.”  I couldn’t figure that out, why it would matter what the tag said…she loved it. 

“Oh my God, do you know what size this is?” Maria exclaimed.    “It is a 1X!”  She took it off and hung it back up.  SHE HUNG IT BACK UP!!  She did not want to buy it.  Because it was a 1X…and not a medium.  I replied, “What difference does it make what that tag says….you can cut the tag out if it bothers you.”   But she didn’t buy it.  Continue Reading

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25Feb

MY GOD, you look so SKINNY!

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When I am shopping in a Big Girl Store, and I am trying on clothes, I always come out of the fitting room to look in a three-way mirror.  When I come out, if the clerk says something like, “Oh that makes you look slimmer”, or “Wow that looks so slenderizing on you”, I am forced to respond with a comment that I am CERTAIN they don’t hear everyday.  I simply say, “Oh then I don’t want it, you can take it back”.

WHAT???? I don’t want to look thinner?   I don’t want to appear as though I am smaller than I actually am????   Are you kidding me?

OK, catch your breath.  Let me explain something.  It is something about compliments.

But first let me spout a little about fat girl stores.  I want to be able to go into a safe place, that sells MY size, and not have to be concerned about clothing that makes me look thinner.  I want to be free to just look great.  Good fit, great style, amazing color, beautiful fabrics….those things.  If a person is going to work in a plus size industry, I want them to be able to figure out that not ALL women are disgusted by their size.  Not ALL women hate their bodies.  Many of us love our bodies and want to enhance our curves – not hide them!!!  There, that being said, I can move on.

Back to compliments.  I am going to ask for your participation here.  Just for 30 days.  Thirty measly days out of thousands that you will live and have lived.  It could be an eye-opener, or at the very least, a lot of FUN. Continue Reading

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18Feb

Fat….The F Word

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Brown is the new black.

50 is the new 30.

Fat is the new…ummmmm – FAT!!

What? How dare I use the dreaded F word.  I mean come on, I AM a female for cryin out sideways!! I need to be ashamed, guilted, depressed or at the very least quiet about it.

Well I am daring to come out of the closet, so to speak, about using the word FAT to describe my wonderful body!!  I have owned this big body for MANY years now and have loved all that it has provided me.  Men, clothes, travel, singing, acting, men, commercials, comedy, beauty, men (God have I mentioned MEN?) and so many other amazing experiences.

When you pick up a puppy, you turn it over and love on it exclaiming, “Oh I love this fat little belly!!” I myself usually kiss a puppy belly and raspberry it.   I love love love the smell of puppy belly skin.

A newborn baby?  Of the human kind, that is.  We comment on the adorable chubby cheeks and the amazing fat at the top of the baby legs.  We comment how healthy those chunky babies look, and my look at the beautiful color…no matter what color!

Ok, so when did FAT become bad? I have that fat at the top of my legs, belly charm and adorable cheeks.  I must be amazingly cute…well my FAT is. To me.  To my husband.  To many others too. Continue Reading

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