Ok everyone…lets drop that weight!! That’s right, let’s get rid of it once and for all.
If you know me or what I stand for…you may think that I have had a hit on my head, or a change of heart, or a lapse in all that I write and speak about.
Not true.
I actually mean it. Lets all lose some weight! Oh, it is probably not the “weight” that you may think. I am talking about all of the self-doubt, the degrading thoughts within your head, and all of the other WEIGHT that you pile on yourself when talking about your body and its girth/weight/poundage/pooch/fat…or any other word that you could use to diminish all of the real beauty that you actually do possess. I have been working with, coaching, counseling and teaching people (not only women either) about body issues and self-loathing a lot lately. The topic is always so fascinating to me and continues to be. What I am finding is that many of us pile on the “weight” of carrying around a bad attitude and it is HEAVY.
Self-speak is constantly occurring. Our job is to re-program, if you will, our negative thoughts about what we look like. Why not make the choice to drop the bad thinking and replace with thoughts of all that we actually are that is great and all of the wonderful qualities that we do possess.
So I am suggesting that you drop a few unnecessary pounds of criticism. And not just about yourself, of others as well. Stop looking for the seeming flaws in yourself and point out to yourself all of the beauty of who you are. And begin to notice the truth about the beauty in others too.
Confidence is the best accessory a person can put on, a wise and loving man once told me. I loved that. I still do. I still remember it like it was yesterday and it was many years ago. Look lovingly at your reflection rather than with a critical, judgmental eye. You are PERFECT just the way you are. Remember that. So dress it up, sexify it, strut it, move and dance it, adore it…it being you!
With love, from a “weightless” woman.
xoxo Wendy
Totally agree.. in my country (Indonesia) I have seen so many women whining about their body.. and I’ve been called to encourage them to love themselves. maybe sounds a little harsh but I said to them, “if you don’t like your body, do something about it! but if you can’t .. hey.. you still beautiful anyway!” btw, I’m size 20 and I love every single thing on my body!
Great post! It’s sad that we’re so hard on ourselves. The world is hardly ever as bad as we play it out in our heads. Truth is, most people don’t even notice the things that we beat ourselves up with.
For every positive thought we have about ourselves and others, a negative one has to leave to make room.
Thanks for sharing!
E
I love this, And I JUST LOST LOTS AND LOTS OF WEIGHT (stuff that was weighing me down) And then I read this, It just confirms everything
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I LOVE IT ALL
Wendy -
Thank you for your inspiration – it always comes at a necessary moment in life. Bless you. I hope women take this to heart. You are beautiful lady!
Great advice! We all need frequent reminders to drop the emotional weights that keep us down. My shoulders feel lighter already………
Thanks for your posts, Wendy – always so affirming & enpowering!
hey karma lady–you have given me confidence to go forward with my dream of attending school. i had been waiting until ” the time was better in my life” and piling on the weight of “what ifs” on my shoulders. i am taking the certification test in seven weeks. i am almost done!!!!!! i miss you.
love,
alene
“losing the weight” – as i read your piece, wendy, i thought of tennesee williams’ classic character from “death of a salesman”, willy loman, and how carrying the WEIGHT of the world around broke him. willy sold anvils. yes, and carried them around. did it make him strong? no … it dis-empowered him and, along with the “world on his shoulders” he carried emotionally regarding his family, et.al., he was a broken man … it’s the same with any person who carries THEIR weight as if it were an albatross, a “LOOK AT ME! I’M LESS THAN! I’M UNWORTHY”. and that’s so untrue. what about “losing the WAIT”? what are you WAITING for? STOP WAITING for the WEIGHT (or less of it) to DEFINE you! BE who you are TODAY … and if that’s carrying extra pounds? carry it – but carry it strong and beautiful and with pride. BE your best at any size. what ARE you WAITING for? it’s NOT about the lbs, girlies … it’s about YOU. be inspired – you are SO worth it JUST as you are.
Wendy,
You go girl – that is some great advice. Even great advice for the less curvy woman of the world. Negativity is an awful burden, draining and stressful – which can add gray hair, wrinkles and lack of spunk.
Thanks for sharing and giving some an awakening to the excess baggage.
Nanc
p.s. Alpacas are still doing great – we’re up to 22 now.
THANKS FOR THE CHALLANGE WENDY. I’VE RECENTLY TAKEN A NEW PART TIME JOB. AT 58 YEARS OLD I’ VE FOUND LEARNING A NEW CAREER DIFFICULT. I MAKE NUMEROUS MISTAKES AND IT WOULD BE VERY EASY TO TELL MYSELF I WON’T SUCCEED AND THAT MY COLLEAGUES JUDGE ME HARSHLY. HOWEVER, I SINCERELY WANT THIS JOB TO WORK OUT
I START EACH WORK DAY WITH PROMPT ATTENDANCE, ENTHUSIASIUM &
A SENSE OF HUMOR. I HAVE RECRIUTED MY CO-WORKERS TO GIVE ME SUGGESTIONS AND GUIDANCE. TODAY MY EMPLOYER GAVE ME THE ULTIMATE VOTE OF CONFIDENCE: A NAME TAG WITH THE COMPANY LOGO
AND MY NAME ENGRAVED ON IT. IN ESSENCE I’VE GRADUATED FROM “TEMP” TO “PART OF THE TEAM.
THANKS FOR THE OPPORTUNITY TO SHARE, LAURIE
Absolutely! let’s drop that weight…pffff I felt a lot of it fall off today when I came home and decided that some of the things I was doing was absolutely fine and if I wanted to take a nap, that was ok! I felt great self-acceptance.
I love that you suggested dropping the self-talk criticism we do for other people as well, dropping all excessive criticism should be on everyone’s resolution list… and did you know that you can make resolutions every day?
Love you Wendy!
Danielle Dove.
another insightful article that makes me pause and think. Thank you Wendy, I will be pondering these thoughts.