Comments on: The Fat Tree http://www.curvyconfidential.com/2009/05/the-fat-tree/ Thu, 09 Sep 2010 11:02:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Kim http://www.curvyconfidential.com/2009/05/the-fat-tree/comment-page-1/#comment-2978 Kim Sat, 20 Jun 2009 16:18:06 +0000 http://www.curvyconfidential.com/?p=931#comment-2978 hey, I just finished reading this article and i couldn't agree more! I myself am a healthy 250+ lbs and for a long time I never thought I'd be happy, and I blamed my body (looking back on it now, I can't understand why I'd do such a thing, but its true). That was untill I met the love of my life; and we look just like the couple described in the story (exept he's the taller one). And, just to confirm, he LOVES my body, can't get enough! We've been together almost 2 years now and he's talking about getting married. But the point is, Wendy, you're absolutely right. Size does not define us, we do. I just wanted to thank you for putting this into words and a story that we girls can relate to. And for reminding us that we can do whatever it is that we strive for. Much love! hey, I just finished reading this article and i couldn’t agree more! I myself am a healthy 250+ lbs and for a long time I never thought I’d be happy, and I blamed my body (looking back on it now, I can’t understand why I’d do such a thing, but its true). That was untill I met the love of my life; and we look just like the couple described in the story (exept he’s the taller one). And, just to confirm, he LOVES my body, can’t get enough! We’ve been together almost 2 years now and he’s talking about getting married. But the point is, Wendy, you’re absolutely right. Size does not define us, we do. I just wanted to thank you for putting this into words and a story that we girls can relate to. And for reminding us that we can do whatever it is that we strive for. Much love!

]]> By: Luz http://www.curvyconfidential.com/2009/05/the-fat-tree/comment-page-1/#comment-2747 Luz Fri, 05 Jun 2009 23:05:59 +0000 http://www.curvyconfidential.com/?p=931#comment-2747 Loved your article. I quite find myself a gorgeous woman -modesty is not my forte- and do not get too hung on my weigh. I have recently started dating a wonderful man and we just cannot keep our hands off each other. I often see younger persons looking at us in the street, I am a full figured woman and he is a very tall and fit guy, a bit older than me. I guess some people feel that people our age (40-60) shouldn't be nibbling each others ears in public, but I just think that is this sweet way young people think they have the monopoly in love and romance, not a reflection on how much I weigh or anything like that. Anyway, it is funny because my boyfriend has not yet met my friends (long-distance relationship). So when I told my friends I was dating this tall sexy man they were all very happy for me and supportive and kind. But whenever a take out his picture and show it to a friend (he is tall, with green eyes, a strong jaw, a wonderful warm smile) EVERYONE reacts with a 'whoa, he is really good-looking'... believe me, it is true surprise, they are not just flattering my beau. And I cant but wonder if they thought that just because I am a large woman, I would be dating a chubby guy with no chin and extra thick glasses? Not that I wouldn't, and I have, I dont give much of a f*** about appearances, but this 'whoa, he is really cute' is starting to rub me just the wrong way. Loved your article. I quite find myself a gorgeous woman -modesty is not my forte- and do not get too hung on my weigh. I have recently started dating a wonderful man and we just cannot keep our hands off each other. I often see younger persons looking at us in the street, I am a full figured woman and he is a very tall and fit guy, a bit older than me. I guess some people feel that people our age (40-60) shouldn’t be nibbling each others ears in public, but I just think that is this sweet way young people think they have the monopoly in love and romance, not a reflection on how much I weigh or anything like that.
Anyway, it is funny because my boyfriend has not yet met my friends (long-distance relationship). So when I told my friends I was dating this tall sexy man they were all very happy for me and supportive and kind. But whenever a take out his picture and show it to a friend (he is tall, with green eyes, a strong jaw, a wonderful warm smile) EVERYONE reacts with a ‘whoa, he is really good-looking’… believe me, it is true surprise, they are not just flattering my beau. And I cant but wonder if they thought that just because I am a large woman, I would be dating a chubby guy with no chin and extra thick glasses? Not that I wouldn’t, and I have, I dont give much of a f*** about appearances, but this ‘whoa, he is really cute’ is starting to rub me just the wrong way.

]]> By: Nizza http://www.curvyconfidential.com/2009/05/the-fat-tree/comment-page-1/#comment-2291 Nizza Fri, 22 May 2009 03:24:05 +0000 http://www.curvyconfidential.com/?p=931#comment-2291 My tree hung low from all the crap that once weighed it down. I've always been big. In the fifth grade not only was I the only girl in my class who wore a bra, it was a 36D and I weighed around 175lbs. Children are vicious and it didn't take long for me to learn to hate my body rather then embrace it. Four years ago I had a job that kept me on the road. I ate junk constintly, lived in and out of ratty hotels, gorged myself on mini-thins and other energy pills and lived an all out unhealthy lifestyle because of the job I had. Because I was living so unhealthy, I lost all my weight. I became skinnier then I had been in the 5th grade. 160 lbs may not seem little to most skinny girl out there, but to me that was skeleton thin. And along with being thin I was also miserable, my face was sunken in, an all of my assets that I did love about myself drooped and faded. Long story short, I got pregnant and gained back every ounce of my weight plus about 50 lbs more. I went from being the skinniest I had ever been to now being the biggest I have ever been. Alongside of that, I have gone from being the most depressed I have ever been to now being the happiest I have ever felt. My boyfriend is the muscular type, the kind of guy you would see with the little 90 lb blonde girls but he adores me for me. He reminds me everyday of how beautiful and amazing I am. Today I actually recieved an email from an artist who is known for his work doing plus sized pin up models offering me an opprotunity to model. I never thought in a million years I was model worthy but now with my growing self-esteem I am begining to look myself in the mirror and see how beautiful I really am. That tree, it's still there but now it grows tall as I take the weight of things off of it's limbs. And I grow stronger right along with it. My tree hung low from all the crap that once weighed it down.

I’ve always been big. In the fifth grade not only was I the only girl in my class who wore a bra, it was a 36D and I weighed around 175lbs. Children are vicious and it didn’t take long for me to learn to hate my body rather then embrace it.

Four years ago I had a job that kept me on the road. I ate junk constintly, lived in and out of ratty hotels, gorged myself on mini-thins and other energy pills and lived an all out unhealthy lifestyle because of the job I had. Because I was living so unhealthy, I lost all my weight. I became skinnier then I had been in the 5th grade. 160 lbs may not seem little to most skinny girl out there, but to me that was skeleton thin. And along with being thin I was also miserable, my face was sunken in, an all of my assets that I did love about myself drooped and faded.

Long story short, I got pregnant and gained back every ounce of my weight plus about 50 lbs more. I went from being the skinniest I had ever been to now being the biggest I have ever been. Alongside of that, I have gone from being the most depressed I have ever been to now being the happiest I have ever felt. My boyfriend is the muscular type, the kind of guy you would see with the little 90 lb blonde girls but he adores me for me. He reminds me everyday of how beautiful and amazing I am. Today I actually recieved an email from an artist who is known for his work doing plus sized pin up models offering me an opprotunity to model. I never thought in a million years I was model worthy but now with my growing self-esteem I am begining to look myself in the mirror and see how beautiful I really am.

That tree, it’s still there but now it grows tall as I take the weight of things off of it’s limbs. And I grow stronger right along with it.

]]> By: Laurie http://www.curvyconfidential.com/2009/05/the-fat-tree/comment-page-1/#comment-2289 Laurie Fri, 22 May 2009 02:54:31 +0000 http://www.curvyconfidential.com/?p=931#comment-2289 My mantra is " attitude is everything!" Few of us like change. Many put up with terrible things because they are familiar. We at least know what to expect. Change can be scary. Results unknown. However, the only failure is failure to try. Try to become educated, to end destructive relationships, get control over our finances or to live a healthy life style. The best way to try is to choose to do one thing at a time. There is an old expression "How do you eat a whole elephant?" The answer is one mouth full at a time. My mantra is ” attitude is everything!” Few of us like change. Many put up with terrible things because they are familiar. We at least know what to expect. Change can be scary. Results unknown. However, the only failure is failure to try. Try to become educated, to end destructive relationships, get control over our finances or to live a healthy life style. The best way to try is to choose to do one thing at a time. There is an old expression “How do you eat a whole elephant?” The answer is one mouth full at a time.

]]> By: brandi http://www.curvyconfidential.com/2009/05/the-fat-tree/comment-page-1/#comment-2214 brandi Wed, 20 May 2009 13:48:31 +0000 http://www.curvyconfidential.com/?p=931#comment-2214 It has taken me years to start learning that just because society calls me fat doesn't mean I am worthless or ugly. I still have my bad days and we all do I'm sure. But I'm a college student with a wonderful husband who happens to be shorter than I am and I'm working a job that I can learn and grow at before I settle into a legal career that I'm studying for. I want to learn to DJ and be in a band and play roller derby and I will not let my size get in the way. All of my male friends seems to prefer girl with curves and a little extra weight and I know some of my skinny girlfriends are jealous of my boobs that they don't have. Honestly, its not blondes that have more fun...its "fat" girls who can love themselves! It has taken me years to start learning that just because society calls me fat doesn’t mean I am worthless or ugly. I still have my bad days and we all do I’m sure. But I’m a college student with a wonderful husband who happens to be shorter than I am and I’m working a job that I can learn and grow at before I settle into a legal career that I’m studying for. I want to learn to DJ and be in a band and play roller derby and I will not let my size get in the way. All of my male friends seems to prefer girl with curves and a little extra weight and I know some of my skinny girlfriends are jealous of my boobs that they don’t have. Honestly, its not blondes that have more fun…its “fat” girls who can love themselves!

]]> By: Wendy http://www.curvyconfidential.com/2009/05/the-fat-tree/comment-page-1/#comment-2155 Wendy Tue, 19 May 2009 04:35:04 +0000 http://www.curvyconfidential.com/?p=931#comment-2155 Oh how I LOVE these posts that you leave for everyone to read. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to read and shop here. I receive many wonderful comments on my personal email and I have asked permission to share some. I want everyone to read the beautiful thoughts that people are sharing. Here is a great one: Wendy - what a beautiful story! It puts it all into perspective.. My tree has carried many things and I am glad that the seasons are changing and the leaves have fallen off allowing me to start fresh. I am ready to bloom. :). Your story inspired me to believe again and know that everything is meant to be. Thank you.... Serina Thanks Serina. Even though we have just met...you amaze me. Such energy. :) Thanks again to all of you. Keep on sharing and growing and learning about the true meaning of loving yourself. xoxo W Oh how I LOVE these posts that you leave for everyone to read. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to read and shop here.

I receive many wonderful comments on my personal email and I have asked permission to share some. I want everyone to read the beautiful thoughts that people are sharing.

Here is a great one:

Wendy – what a beautiful story! It puts it all into perspective.. My tree has carried many things and I am glad that the seasons are changing and the leaves have fallen off allowing me to start fresh. I am ready to bloom. :) . Your story inspired me to believe again and know that everything is meant to be. Thank you…. Serina

Thanks Serina. Even though we have just met…you amaze me. Such energy. :)

Thanks again to all of you. Keep on sharing and growing and learning about the true meaning of loving yourself.

xoxo W

]]> By: fB http://www.curvyconfidential.com/2009/05/the-fat-tree/comment-page-1/#comment-2143 fB Mon, 18 May 2009 20:22:43 +0000 http://www.curvyconfidential.com/?p=931#comment-2143 I definitely have stuff hung on that tree. You can say I'm miserable some times. Most of the time I'm neither miserable nor happy. There are other times when I feel I couldn't be any happier. I wouldn't say it's only about the weight, but weight is a part of every day life. It's always there when I wake up and there when I go to sleep. The only good thing is most of the time I don't pay attention to anything. I'm lucky enough to have an awesome husband. He always tries to tell me that my weight doesn't matter to him. That's not the point, it matters to me. But some how not enough for me to change it. I guess I live underneath that tree a lot, I just day dream it away. I definitely have stuff hung on that tree. You can say I’m miserable some times. Most of the time I’m neither miserable nor happy. There are other times when I feel I couldn’t be any happier. I wouldn’t say it’s only about the weight, but weight is a part of every day life. It’s always there when I wake up and there when I go to sleep. The only good thing is most of the time I don’t pay attention to anything.

I’m lucky enough to have an awesome husband. He always tries to tell me that my weight doesn’t matter to him. That’s not the point, it matters to me. But some how not enough for me to change it. I guess I live underneath that tree a lot, I just day dream it away.

]]> By: B in MI http://www.curvyconfidential.com/2009/05/the-fat-tree/comment-page-1/#comment-2097 B in MI Sun, 17 May 2009 15:03:08 +0000 http://www.curvyconfidential.com/?p=931#comment-2097 I love reading your articles! I am happy to say I gave up using the "tree"! I was in a marriage for 16 years that all I heard was that I looked like Jaba the Hut and how I needed help for my issues. It was so bad that I would get out of the shower and lay naked on the bed only to be told I had a problem, I was a nympho. He would then get on the computer and look at internet porn and tell me how he wished I looked like that. I never thought I could be happy because of my weight. I know I am rambling now but the point is, through my job I met a wonderful man who treats me like a queen! We have a hard time being in the same room without touching! When our eyes meet there is an instant smile and feeling that we can do anything as long as we are together. Even with our financial problems right now we don't take things out on one another. I realized through him that I could have my cake and eat it too! I am now "fat and happy". I am proof that Cinderella was a fat girl! I love reading your articles! I am happy to say I gave up using the “tree”! I was in a marriage for 16 years that all I heard was that I looked like Jaba the Hut and how I needed help for my issues. It was so bad that I would get out of the shower and lay naked on the bed only to be told I had a problem, I was a nympho. He would then get on the computer and look at internet porn and tell me how he wished I looked like that. I never thought I could be happy because of my weight. I know I am rambling now but the point is, through my job I met a wonderful man who treats me like a queen! We have a hard time being in the same room without touching! When our eyes meet there is an instant smile and feeling that we can do anything as long as we are together. Even with our financial problems right now we don’t take things out on one another. I realized through him that I could have my cake and eat it too! I am now “fat and happy”. I am proof that Cinderella was a fat girl!

]]> By: Marykay http://www.curvyconfidential.com/2009/05/the-fat-tree/comment-page-1/#comment-2073 Marykay Sun, 17 May 2009 03:45:13 +0000 http://www.curvyconfidential.com/?p=931#comment-2073 The Preakness horse race was run today. The winner was a HUGE mare. The rest of the pack were male. The second horse just a smidge behind was a TINY stallion. Funny. That would be my husband chasing me. I'm SO GLAD he was persistant and caught me. We are that odd couple and he taught me that all those things I have been hanging on that fat tree are things that I created. Sure, others planted the seeds, but I fertilized them with my own thoughts. Now, he has been a wonderful support for me, but the strength came from God, who had planted it within me and I didn't cultivate. Its easier to stay in bed and "woe is me", but it is so much more fun to enjoy the beauty of our lives. The first thing in the morning, I thank God for 5 things. The last thing I do at night is to thank God for 5 things that He helped me accomplish that day. Your posts are a consitant reminder to me that we must remain positive about ourselves. God doesn't make mistakes and there is a reason we have what we have. I have a wonderful home, husband, friends, job, and person. ... me. .. Warmly, Marykay The Preakness horse race was run today. The winner was a HUGE mare. The rest of the pack were male. The second horse just a smidge behind was a TINY stallion. Funny. That would be my husband chasing me. I’m SO GLAD he was persistant and caught me. We are that odd couple and he taught me that all those things I have been hanging on that fat tree are things that I created. Sure, others planted the seeds, but I fertilized them with my own thoughts. Now, he has been a wonderful support for me, but the strength came from God, who had planted it within me and I didn’t cultivate. Its easier to stay in bed and “woe is me”, but it is so much more fun to enjoy the beauty of our lives. The first thing in the morning, I thank God for 5 things. The last thing I do at night is to thank God for 5 things that He helped me accomplish that day. Your posts are a consitant reminder to me that we must remain positive about ourselves. God doesn’t make mistakes and there is a reason we have what we have. I have a wonderful home, husband, friends, job, and person. … me. .. Warmly, Marykay

]]> By: carol http://www.curvyconfidential.com/2009/05/the-fat-tree/comment-page-1/#comment-2057 carol Sat, 16 May 2009 20:53:08 +0000 http://www.curvyconfidential.com/?p=931#comment-2057 Hi My Beautiful Friend Once again your words continue to inspire me and re-enforce the fact that regardless of all the outside "bark" the inside of the tree is fabulous and beautifully grained with all that we bring to the world. I believe in being the best I can be every day - regardless of my size. This doesn't mean I have to be perfect or over the top involved in making sure all is well, it means that I bring my inner, polished veneer to all that I do in my life and I am respected, admired and loved for ME! I also believe we make choices in our life and that these choices will either bring about positive results or add to the "tree". Do what you can and want to accomplish and realize that some things are out of our control and may not happen. In the meantime enjoy every breath that you take and know that you bring so many wonderful qualities to the world and the world is better for you being here. Fat Tree? Not me! I prefer the "tree of life" with all its complexities, joys and beauty. Branch out and stretch - you can reach further than you think. Wendy, you are a part of my life that sparkles and shines and makes me smile and I am so lucky we met and became friends. Keep on spreading the "good stuff". Joy and Passion - Carol Hi My Beautiful Friend

Once again your words continue to inspire me and re-enforce the fact that regardless of all the outside “bark” the inside of the tree is fabulous and beautifully grained with all that we bring to the world.

I believe in being the best I can be every day – regardless of my size. This doesn’t mean I have to be perfect or over the top involved in making sure all is well, it means that I bring my inner, polished veneer to all that I do in my life and I am respected, admired and loved for ME! I also believe we make choices in our life and that these choices will either bring about positive results or add to the “tree”. Do what you can and want to accomplish and realize that some things are out of our control and may not happen. In the meantime enjoy every breath that you take and know that you bring so many wonderful qualities to the world and the world is better for you being here.

Fat Tree? Not me! I prefer the “tree of life” with all its complexities, joys and beauty. Branch out and stretch – you can reach further than you think.

Wendy, you are a part of my life that sparkles and shines and makes me smile and I am so lucky we met and became friends. Keep on spreading the “good stuff”.

Joy and Passion – Carol

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