Misty’s Dating Adventures Part 2

I don’t think it’s sizist to have a preference. What bothers me is the reverse thinking when it comes to big men as compared to big women.

Plus-size women, especially in the plus-size community, are referred to as healthy, curvy or as being “real” women. While big men are called chubby, stocky or XL. The stereotype is becoming that a fuller figured woman is more natural, while a bigger guy is just fat.

It seems that the “size acceptance” movement really only applies to women. We praise Keely Shaye-Smith because she shows off her curves in a bikini and landed a hot guy like Pierce Brosnan. Yet, if Jessica Biel showed up on the red carpet with Johan Hill, we’d all be thinking she could do so much better.

Yes i believe we r in a size acceptance society,but if u dress sexy and confident i believe u can overcome the stereo typing. i myself am a plus size woman I carry myself proud and take pride in my appearance. am a grandmother of 5 and so proud of it. its hard to afford nice clothes and they cost more but if u do the best u can and show ure confidence it works. I think the ladies who don’t take pride r the ones who give us the stereo typing. my motto is im a pleasure to know and a treasure to have and that should be enough for the right man. lynn

Sex is the ultimate personal thing, you shouldn’t feel guilty about who you find attractive, the same way you don’t feel guilty about preferring men over women or vice-versa. You do not sound like you did not respect this guy, just did not find him attractive. And though we do owe each other respect regardless of size, gender, fitness level, etc… we certainly DO NOT owe each other love, romance or sex. Go with what you feel!