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Misty’s Dating Adventures – Part 1

I just came back from a nice vacation with family in Texas and have re-entered the dating scene running – and with fresh enthusiasm and confidence. There is something about being in Texas – with strong, healthy, BIG, down-to-earth people that really fortifies me and erases any bit of negative self-image that may have crept in due to the challenge of being a size 16 single woman living in Los Angeles.

I had a first date this week with this guy named Derek…who I met through a dating site for curvy girls. Going on dates from the curvy site is usually less stressful for me since I know these men are going to LOVE my curves. On other dating sites – for the general public – you run into the chance of meeting guys who don’t really like curvy girls, but will make exceptions… I don’t want to be anyone’s exception!

Anyhow, Derek is a few years younger than me. I haven’t dated a younger man in lord knows how long and now I remember why. Derek was very sweet, very cute, but not very in to me, even though he kissed me on the lips during dinner on our date (I HATE the first kiss being rushed). He only texted me the next day – how rude – Life is just too short to spend time with a guy who is not head over heels for you. I think texting is so impersonal. At least, I got to dress up and go to a nice restaurant, so that was pleasant, but unfortunately just not a love connection.

What do you think about dating younger men (Derek excluded) and the whole cougar phenomenon? Can true love ever bloom when there’s an age difference? Younger women dating older men is an accepted norm in our society. Is the reverse now true?

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Comments:10

Rhuwin
09/04/29

i think it depends on how big the age difference is. i have dated a guy who was 4 years younger than me and that was great (didn’t go anywhere but still a VERY good time) and i recently dated a guy who was 7 years younger than me and he was WAY to immature. and i HATE texting. i want to know what this dating site is though. because i would love to not have to “break the news” that i am a big girl and worry about the reaction.
Mike
09/04/30

Ummm…..I would be more than happy to date a Cougar such as yourself. I think that most younger men these days are not being educated about how to treat a lady. Misty, I am sorry to hear that this fell flat for you. Best of Luck and keep us informed!!
Laura
09/04/30

I am a cougar and proud of it. My husband is 9 years younger than me. He responded to my personal ad online. I was skeptical about dating someone that much younger but it has been terrific. I think the thing to keep in perspective is how well you get along with one another and that you have similar interests. Our family and friends didn’t have an issue with it. Just keep a sense of humor when questions are asked about needing a nipple for the beer bottle. Good luck
Casey
09/05/02

I’m 45, and my fiance is 10 years younger than me…does that make me a cougar? I guess I never thought of it that way. Meow! Anyway, it really works fine for us. He has an earnest temperament that makes me wonder if he was ever immature, and I certainly don’t feel middle aged. It also helps that his Mama raised a gentleman. There are some things, though – for instance we don’t always know each other’s cultural landmarks like music and movies. But it’s usually funny rather than awkward.
missfitpinup82
09/05/02

My hubby is 2 years younger than me which isn’t much, but i can TELL he is younger. but i like that in him i feel like he brings out a better side of me more fun and youthful. we have been married for 6 years, no kids just a dog and although we may not have much to show for it (material possesions) im having the time of my life. you have to give it an honest chance though…not eveyone can pull it off.
Simran
09/05/03

I really hear what you say about not wanting to be any man’s exception. I’m really tired of men pretending to be interested in me when really they’re settling for me and expecting me to be grateful to them for – according to the – taking pity on the ugly chubby duckling.
As for women dating younger men, I think that it’s still generally viewed as a situation in which younger men, who are always up for action, target what they consider to be “desperate” older women. I don’t think that it’s necessarily the reality, but these are the lines along which many people I’ve asked think.
I’m sorry Derek wasn’t “into” you but you’re right – there’s not enough time given to us to waste on men who don’t adore us.
KJ
09/05/04

Here’s the deal….I am nobody’s consolation prize…EVER! So, that is my take on being an ‘exception’.

As to the subject of dating younger men….I’m 35, and I have always prefered older men. Why? You may ask…well….they know how to treat a lady….have their ‘act’ together….as a general rule they know what they want by the time you get to them…none of this still trying to ‘figure it out’ stuff…the drama is kept at zero as well. Now, this is the gospel according to KJ and only applies to KJ…LOL.

Always treat women the way you hope some guy out there is treating the woman who will someday become your wife, and you will always be the perfect bf.
chris
09/05/08

I find myself a younger man enggaed now to a older woman. I love it there is just so much exsperience an older woman brings into a relationship. She is now 31 and i am 26. I geuss not a huge age difference but i think its enough. I will admit there are things she likes ( from tv shows to tatse in music that i scratch my head about ) but I truly love her all her quirks and so on. I have dated younger woman and they seem to willy nilly for me. I dated much older woman in my life as old as 45 ( i was 23 at the time) But it just somethig about an older woman and her attitude, her presence, her total package that just gets me. I also think it forces younger guys to grow up and that can never be a bad thing. If they want to connect with an older woman your going to have to act older at least most of the time.
Allen
09/06/11

Yes, true love can bloom! My size 16 wife was 36 and I was 27 when we started dating. At 55 and 46, she still has my complete attention. In fact we are like a couple of 19 year olds . Best decision I ever made, settling with an older, larger lady.

A secret about larger ladies is that they tend not to wrinkle too early. My wife does not look 55. She looks my age. So don’t change a thing! There is another guy who agrees with me, but is for you!
Vickie
09/07/10

My husband is 17 years younger than me and we’ve been married for almost 9 years and are still going strong! He is a very mature and semi-serious minded man and I am a fun-loving, slightly goofy middle-aged woman. He is also very into curvy, which I am. We met after I had been divorced for many, many years. He talked me into getting married after we were together for 2 years and I’m so glad he did! Good luck to everyone who’s looking. The right person will come along when you least expect it.

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